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Baron Samedi
02-13-2008, 07:27 PM
I thought I would share this with my Planet friends here.

My grandfather, whom I was very close to and spent a lot of time with on a regular basis, passed away on the morning of Super Bowl Sunday. It was not unexpected, but it is always a shock to lose someone close to you, no matter what their age or health is.

I just wanted to share with you all the passing of a true hero, in my eyes, so here are a few things about him...

He was very poor as a child. Both of his parents were dwarves, and as such there was no work for them, particularly in the depression. He used to go to the fish market and buy or dig out from the trash unwanted fish heads to take home so his mother could make stew. He used to go to the train yard and tracks to gather coal that had fallen so his family could have heat. He suffered a lot of painful abuse from his peers due to his parents' condition.

When the war came, he lied about his age to join the Army. He eventually served in the Army, the Navy, and the Air Force. With the GI bill, he educated himself as an engineer, and worked on the Manhattan Project.

He got married and had 3 children, one of whom, my aunt, turned out to be mentally retarded (the term that was used). He was instructed by the social services to have her sent to a home, the infamous Walter Fernald State School for the handicapped. For those who don't know, back in the 50's and earlier, a handicapped child was considered an embarassment and ostracized. They would be sent away to these schools and forgotten, where they were often abused, both physically and mentally, and were the unwilling subjects of human experiments, volunteered by the state for these studies. Those who could not afford these schools often kept these children hidden in the basement, or the attic, and not allowed to come out if there was anyone around who might see them. They were generally not acknowledged by their own parents when the parents were asked about their children.

My grandfather brought her to the school, had a look around, didn't like what he saw, and took her home. She was raised by my grandmother and taught to cook, clean, do laundry, set the table, and basic household chores.

In the meantime, my grandfather was a founder of a group called the Association of Retarded Citizens, who fought for the rights of these persons, and for better treatment, and hellped establish support for people who wanted to raise their children at home, just like any other child. He helped fight for the right for these people to work, and be treated as human beings.

Today, my aunt has held the same job for 36 years, and lives in her own apartment, does her cooking, cleaning, shopping, and laundry. She has an assistant that helps her get through life, much like those who help the elderly in assisted living. She has an IQ that is too low to measure, has speech problems, and cannot drive, but she is friendly, social, has countless friends at her job, and is almost entirely self sufficient. She was one of the first to be given a chance at life like any other.

So, the next time you see a mentally handicapped person greeting you at Sam's Club, bagging your groceries at the store, or emptying trash or sweeping the floors, try and remember what these people used to be treated as, unwanted animals, to be shunned and ostracized.

That person you see is my grandfather's legacy. He changed our society. He made society realize that we have a responsibilty to treat those who have handicaps with human decency and respect. He fought for the rights they always deserved, but were never given, because they had no voice.

So, for all he did for me, in my life, and for the honorable and brave service to his country, and for his contribution to make us a better society, he will always be a hero to me.:bow: :party:

Thanks for your indulgence if you read all of this.

3 Point Stan
02-13-2008, 07:36 PM
This is a great story and one I'm glad you shared. My condolences on your loss. Sounds like we're forced to carry on with one less "real life" hero.

Mikiemo83
02-13-2008, 07:43 PM
Baron, first I like to say that I am sorry to hear about your loss it is a very difficult thing to lose someone you love and respect

I also want to thank you for sharing the story, your Grandfather's work is something you should be very proud of

Mean Patrick
02-13-2008, 07:58 PM
My condolences to you and your family and my admiration to your grandfather.

Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord; and let perpetual light shine upon him. May he rest in peace.

SlumpBustR
02-13-2008, 08:00 PM
Baron, my condolences on the passing of your Grandfather but TYVM for sharing his story and that of your Aunt as well

please consider re-posting it on the Main Board when it becomes available so that more PP regulars can view it

SteelerFan87
02-13-2008, 08:03 PM
Man, I'm sorry to hear that Baron. Sounds like he was a great man. My prayers for him and your family.

Baron Samedi
02-13-2008, 08:12 PM
Thanks everyone for the sentiments. I must say, that Sunday pretty well sucked, all in all.

Claremonster
02-13-2008, 08:12 PM
Condolences, Baron... Sounds like your grandpa was a heck of a guy. All mine did was get drunk, shoot feds, get drunk some more, and died of cancer... not much of a legacy there.

lvent
02-13-2008, 08:17 PM
Sorry to hear about that Baron~

Spentcartridge
02-13-2008, 08:22 PM
I thought I would share this with my Planet friends here.

My grandfather, whom I was very close to and spent a lot of time with on a regular basis, passed away on the morning of Super Bowl Sunday. It was not unexpected, but it is always a shock to lose someone close to you, no matter what their age or health is.

I just wanted to share with you all the passing of a true hero, in my eyes, so here are a few things about him...

He was very poor as a child. Both of his parents were dwarves, and as such there was no work for them, particularly in the depression. He used to go to the fish market and buy or dig out from the trash unwanted fish heads to take home so his mother could make stew. He used to go to the train yard and tracks to gather coal that had fallen so his family could have heat. He suffered a lot of painful abuse from his peers due to his parents' condition.

When the war came, he lied about his age to join the Army. He eventually served in the Army, the Navy, and the Air Force. With the GI bill, he educated himself as an engineer, and worked on the Manhattan Project.

He got married and had 3 children, one of whom, my aunt, turned out to be mentally retarded (the term that was used). He was instructed by the social services to have her sent to a home, the infamous Walter Fernald State School for the handicapped. For those who don't know, back in the 50's and earlier, a handicapped child was considered an embarassment and ostracized. They would be sent away to these schools and forgotten, where they were often abused, both physically and mentally, and were the unwilling subjects of human experiments, volunteered by the state for these studies. Those who could not afford these schools often kept these children hidden in the basement, or the attic, and not allowed to come out if there was anyone around who might see them. They were generally not acknowledged by their own parents when the parents were asked about their children.

My grandfather brought her to the school, had a look around, didn't like what he saw, and took her home. She was raised by my grandmother and taught to cook, clean, do laundry, set the table, and basic household chores.

In the meantime, my grandfather was a founder of a group called the Association of Retarded Citizens, who fought for the rights of these persons, and for better treatment, and hellped establish support for people who wanted to raise their children at home, just like any other child. He helped fight for the right for these people to work, and be treated as human beings.

Today, my aunt has held the same job for 36 years, and lives in her own apartment, does her cooking, cleaning, shopping, and laundry. She has an assistant that helps her get through life, much like those who help the elderly in assisted living. She has an IQ that is too low to measure, has speech problems, and cannot drive, but she is friendly, social, has countless friends at her job, and is almost entirely self sufficient. She was one of the first to be given a chance at life like any other.

So, the next time you see a mentally handicapped person greeting you at Sam's Club, bagging your groceries at the store, or emptying trash or sweeping the floors, try and remember what these people used to be treated as, unwanted animals, to be shunned and ostracized.

That person you see is my grandfather's legacy. He changed our society. He made society realize that we have a responsibilty to treat those who have handicaps with human decency and respect. He fought for the rights they always deserved, but were never given, because they had no voice.

So, for all he did for me, in my life, and for the honorable and brave service to his country, and for his contribution to make us a better society, he will always be a hero to me.:bow: :party:

Thanks for your indulgence if you read all of this.

Sorry to hear about your loss. Your Grandfather was a genuine hero. Too often the word hero is used to describe someone that is/was less than a hero. Not here though.

bideau
02-13-2008, 08:25 PM
Baron,

Consolences on your loss.

When the main board comes back up, please make sure to copy this post to the grandparent's thread over there. It's a great collection of stories like yours.

My wife worked at Fernald abut the time we were first married ('82-'83). She always said that many of the patients there could have been very functional in society if they had not been left there. Long before she worked there, the typical way of caring for them was to provide just enough for them to survive. It was a horrible place until the later 70's when better the state started caring for them as humans.

It's a credit to your grandfather that he chose to care for your aunt rather than leave her there. That was not the norm of the day.

Baron Samedi
02-13-2008, 08:50 PM
Oh yeah!

One more thing I will always remember. My grandfather was way beyond an avid card player...you name it....bridge, spades, pinochle, and poker. When there was noone to play with, he played solitaire for hours every day. He always had a deck in his hand, shuffling and dealing.

He had a saying that will always stick with me...."Every time you pick up the cards, it's like Christmas." :lipsmack:

I put a deck in his coat pocket to be buried with him.

maelli
02-13-2008, 09:00 PM
Thanks for sharing your story, Baron. Did your grandfather ever get involved with the Seven Hills Foundation in Worcester? The name ARC rang a bell as I read your post because of my working knowledge of SHF. At my former job I was assigned to design and print their annual reports, so I've read a lot about them and their history. The Worcester Area ARC is where Seven Hills Foundation sprang forth, and it is part of the entire SHF organization to this day.

Your grandfather was truly a heroic spirit in his refusal to heed to the status quo in an age when the term "disability" was met with shame and ignorance. Thank God for people like him.

:applause: :applause: :applause:

Baron Samedi
02-13-2008, 09:07 PM
Thanks for sharing your story, Baron. Did your grandfather ever get involved with the Seven Hills Foundation in Worcester? The name ARC rang a bell as I read your post because of my working knowledge of SHF. At my former job I was assigned to design and print their annual reports, so I've read a lot about them and their history. The Worcester Area ARC is where Seven Hills Foundation sprang forth, and it is part of the entire SHF organization to this day.

Your grandfather was truly a heroic spirit in his refusal to heed to the status quo in an age when the term "disability" was met with shame and ignorance. Thank God for people like him.

:applause: :applause: :applause:

I honestly don't know the answer to that. My grandfather seldom talked about himself. What I wrote was a compiled story from what I and my father knew about him. I imagine he may have had some indirect involvement, since he was a board member for ARC for many, many years when he was younger.

Soxfanroach
02-13-2008, 09:22 PM
Wow. It puts everything into perspective now doesn't it? Thanks for sharing Baron. Your grandfather was what other people wish that they could be...a difference maker. You are very correct in calling him a hero. No question about it. You can be very proud of what he did and you should know that finding this to be so honorable says a lot about you and what your grandfather has instilled into your father and as a result into you.

TBL
02-13-2008, 10:29 PM
Great story Baron. Your family has alot to be proud of regarding your grandfather. I'm sure he has a nice, comfy seat "up there". Condolences from my family to yours....

My grandmother was similar serving as a sargent in the army during WW2, a female in the military being almost unheard of back then. But I won't hijack your thread with the details. It's a shame to lose alot of these great people from that era.